What allows someone to achieve the results they desire in the workplace – and in life - while others strive, but stop short of their dreams? I believe it revolves around choice, the topic this month with our coach before we come back together as a group in early April.
When I think of my experiences over the last twenty-five years, those who experience greater success have blazed their own trail and made choices aligned with what they want and expect from life. For these folks, no isn’t an option. They create their own destiny. The knowledge of why they want something is internal and pinnacle; so much so, how to bring their aspirations to life is intuitive and non-negotiable. When faced with crossroads, they make the choice to persevere. They say yes to more.
Conversely, one of my frustrations was watching employees hand their power over by limiting the choices they'd consider. It’s as if there was an invisible fence that forced them to think and act small, and their choices followed suit. The fence was often paved with self-limiting beliefs and the ever popular “yeah-but” strategy. Yeah, I would (should, could) but….I don’t have the education, experience, aptitude….it’s not my job….it’s outside of my expertise. Heck, this stops action at the moment of contemplation!
I believe the yeah-but strategy is an attempt to escalate our self-doubts as true, limit our choices to what we think is reasonable, and makes our true desires just outside our reach. This leaves us with nothing but compromise, success with a little “s” and the reality of sitting in same territory time and time again.
If we want more success - we have to start thinking and acting like someone who has defined success with a big "S". I’m ready to for the fence to come down – are you?
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